Twice the Patience, Twice the Blessings: Embracing Love in Your Remarriage

Discover why patience and love are essential in LDS remarriage and how they can turn challenges into blessings for your blended family.

The Power of Patience and Love in Remarriage

When two families come together after divorce or widowhood, the process can feel overwhelming. As one Liahona author noted, “Blending families requires twice as much patience”¹ — yet the reward is “twice as much love”¹. That perspective invites us to see the sacrifices of remarriage as investments in deeper unity rather than inconveniences.

If you’ve been struggling with patience in your own remarriage, a short discovery session can help you identify practical ways to approach these challenges with confidence and compassion. Many couples are surprised by how much a single guided conversation can shift the tone in their home.

Respect and Listening Build Unity

Every individual brings established habits and opinions to a new marriage. In the same Liahona article, Arnfinn and Heidi discovered that having “more than one opinion” is not only normal but healthy². Instead of fighting about who is right, they learned that respect and listening are “key words” to understanding one another². Couples can emulate this by pausing to hear their spouse’s perspective, acknowledging differences, and seeking compromise.

Harmony Comes Through Shared Priorities

Deciding where to live, how to budget, or which holiday traditions to maintain are major decisions for blended families. This same couple aimed for “harmony and love at home”³ by focusing on shared goals rather than rigidly preserving old ways. Creating a mission statement for your remarriage—centered on gospel living, family prayer, and mutual support—can help align expectations and reduce friction.

Gospel Practices Sustain Relationships

Church programs and teachings provide a framework for strengthening blended families. Family prayer, family home evening, and discussing gospel principles “are worth the time and effort”⁴. These practices remind everyone of their eternal potential and invite the Spirit into the home. Keeping temple worship and new family traditions at the forefront can unify siblings and step-siblings⁴.

Benefits of Patience and Love

• Greater empathy: Taking the long view encourages you to understand each person’s grief and adjustment period.

• Lasting bonds: Families who practice patience report deeper bonds and a sense of belonging that endures when children reach adulthood⁵.

If you’re ready to apply these principles but aren’t sure where to start, book a free 15–30 minute Discovery Call to talk through your unique challenges and explore how coaching can support your family’s journey toward unity.

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References

1. Remarriage: An Adventure in Patience and Love, Liahona, 2016.

2. Ibid., section on multiple opinions in marriage.

3. Ibid., section on shared goals and harmony.

4. Ibid., section on gospel practices in blended families.

5. Ibid., conclusion on long-term benefits of patience.